Planning a bachelor or bachelorette party can be the most fun part of the wedding planning experience. And, we commit to encouraging couples to ditch traditions that don't serve them. The same applies to this traditionally gendered event. Might we pitch the joint bachelor bachelorette party?
Maybe you have the same friend group. Or, perhaps you want to share every moment of this wedding journey together! There are plenty of reasons a joint bachelor bachelorette party might be right for you. Plus, there are loads of great ideas to make the party feel like the natural choice.
1. If you have intertwined friends.
“It’s definitely something to think about if you and your fiancé have a shared friend group. You get to celebrate your wedding day with your best friend (and those who mean the most to you). There is nothing better than that. However, interests between the two groups are something that you will want to keep in mind.” – Lisette Gatliff, Lisette OC Photography
2. A joint bachelor bachelorette party is great for spouses in the wedding party.
“I'm a huge fan of joint pre-wedding events! My favorite days are when couples design mornings apart and come together to share an epic group meal (think tasting menu or dinner cruise). Joint pre-wedding events are for the couples whose wedding parties share spouses or significant others already, or for those whose wedding parties are friends and colleagues already.” – Ashley Lachney, Owner of Alston Mayger Events
3. To enjoy the shared spotlight.
“If you’re someone who doesn’t particularly like the spotlight, then it would be a good idea to share your bachelor or bachelorette party with your fiancé. However, if you’re wanting to have all eyes on you then this might not be the best choice for you.” – Lisette Gatliff, Lisette OC Photography
4. You'll have more venue options.
“While I'll never be the planner that's telling you not to spend money on food (SPEND IT, SPEND IT ALL!), you're much more likely to hit a food and beverage minimum with a larger group coming together. This could bring venues that you felt were out of budget by doing things separately into a whole new focus!” – Ashley Lachney, Owner of Alston Mayger Events
5. A joint bachelor bachelorette party can save you money.
“Combining your bachelor and bachelorette party into one is a good way to save money. It’s also the perfect way to spend time with everyone at once. It really just depends on the day or kind of party that you and your fiancé are going for.” – Lisette Gatliff, Lisette OC Photography
6. They're perfect for non-traditional weddings.
“If the traditional bachelor and bachelorette parties aren't your style (i.e. strip clubs, questionable straws, and the like), a joint bachelor bachelorette party may be the perfect middle ground. Especially for couples who aren't having a traditional wedding party with bridesmaids groomsmen, etc. This can be a great opportunity to still involve close friends in a group setting for a fun “last hurrah” celebration!” – Alexandra Denniston, Owner & Lead Planner, Eventlightenment Planning
7. You're having a very large wedding.
“We love a joint bachelor bachelorette party vacation. Particularly for couples having very large weddings. Why? On your wedding day, greeting and thanking extended family and friends, you may not actually get ample time with your best friends. A joint bachelor bachelorette allows you to have a separate VIP wedding event. Here, you and your future spouse can celebrate exclusively with your wedding party.” – Claire Eliza, Editor-in-Chief of Bridal Musings
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